Being a tech of sorts and a drummer I do kind of understand the conflicts that are in place on this one. Generally the tech wants to layer the sound, so each sound - gat, vox, snare, bass, bass drum have their own spot in the spectrum so they ring out clearly.
the unfortunate side effect is that an intact head sounds bright through a decent PA for some reason clashing with lots of other instruments. You have to remember that it sounds ok to you BEHIND the kit. it sounds kind of stifled, almost chocked in front of the kit sometimes depending on your tuning and the acoustics of the room.
I've got around this by sticking an aquarian Impact II head on both ends of the drum to damp some of the highs. The sound is amazing un-miced and doesn't change dramatically when miced.
Simplest solution: Tell the sound tech that if he wants to cut a hole in your head that he will have to reimburse the cost of a new one. OR - and this is crucial - work with the tech and check what your [url=http://www.drumandbass.org]drums[/url] sound like from the floor. Get another band member to play your [url=http://www.drumandbass.org]drums[/url] and work with the tech and adjust your tuning to get the right sound that you want and one that he is happy with.
It also pays to bear in mind that the tech has a reputation to make/uphold as well. Just like the band he will get further work based on how good his shows are. As musicians we need to work closely with the techs to get everything sounding sweet. Their carreers parrallel our own and if you don't form a tight team and work with them on and off stage it makes life hard for everybody, which means that the music is not served as well as it should be.
Next time you play a gig the first thing you should do is go directly to the sound engineer, introduce yourself and be ultra nice and cool to him/her. Listen to your [url=http://www.drumandbass.org]drums[/url] from the floor as well as on stage to get a good perspective of how the room changed the sound projection of your [url=http://www.drumandbass.org]drums[/url] and tune accordingly. Ask their opinion and why they want things the way they do.
If you do this a gig will be more fun for you, them and everybody.